And more even than simply inaccurate, I often find it rather insulting.
|This is not a relationship built on dishonesty.|
Now, if actually put into practice, this would completely fall apart. Kids know when they're being manipulated, and will often let their displeasure in this fact be known (I know that when younger, and faced with less respectful adults, my sister and I were definitely not impressed!); if they don't have any interest in something their parents think they should learn, and the parents force it anyway, it ceases to be unschooling; and if a parent shares an interest, asks if their kids want to go to a museum or sign up for a class, that's not in the least sneaky or manipulative, so doesn't warrant any conspiratorial aura. All that is, is a parent openly asking their child if they'd be interested in doing something, or genuinely sharing a personal interest.
To think that all unschooling is, is teaching a child without the child ever realizing they're being taught is to completely misunderstand what unschooling is and how it works. Well, I'm here to say that:
Unschooling has nothing to do with the covert manipulation of children.
An unschooling parent will fill their house with interesting things (or make available other resource rich places: libraries, cultural centers, co-ops, etc.). They'll be happy to help their children pursue a passion or simply get an answer to a question.
Unschooling is a genuine respect for children, their right to choose their own learning, and their right to be supported in those choices.
Now if only people who have no actual experience or understanding of unschooling would stop pretending they do, it would make it much easier for people just discovering it to gain a solid understanding of what unschooling really is.